Greetings from lovely Big Bear Lake, California where I'm currently vacationing with my family. I can't tell you how wonderful it is to be able to go on vacation and know that I can pretty much do anything I want to do and not be limited by obesity or weight induced exhaustion.
Today's post has to do with a comment I hear about getting in shape often. When people hear things about my fitness schedule or the fact that we prepare most of our food at home instead of doing fast food or other options, people will make a comment that is an outright lie: “I don't think I have the time to do that.”
Let me explain…
I recently read this article in the Wall Street Journal about people feeling busy. I honestly believe that if you were to ask 10 people, “Is your life busy?”, you would find that 9 of them would say yes and the other one would be so consumed with what they are working on that they wouldn't make the time to respond.
The article brings up this point in helping people to think just how busy they are:
Instead of saying “I don't have time” try saying “it's not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I'm not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it's not a priority.” “I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don't sit well, that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently.
This idea rocked my world. I absolutely love the accountability this kind of thought requires.
We all have the same 24 hours a day, 168 hours per week. Nobody gets more time to spend until Justin Timberlake and the guy from White Collar figure out that whole time currency thing.
While I understand that some may die prematurely, and therefore end up with less time than others, chances are, if you're reading my blog, you are not dead. If you are dead, please accept my apologies as time is obviously running differently for you these days. I will assume you inadvertantly arrived on this page either based on reading my eulogy in the previous post (I assume dead people dig eulogies) or some kind of faulty google search that picked up the word deadlift in another post.
So give this idea a try. The next time someone asks you to do something, or you consider an alternative course of action and you start to reply that you don't have time, state instead that it's just not a priority right now. Or I also like to say: I'm choosing not to make time for that right now.
For example, I am always having friends recommend the Big Bang Theory to me. I assume it's because I'm so good looking and I live around nerds, so they think I'd relate to the woman on the show. I just
don't have time for that right now am choosing not to make watching new television shows a priority right now. Frankly, if I'm going to start getting into a new show, it's got to be off the charts mind blowingly good, or just have a substantial amount of Jon Hamm in it.
I have time to read every new hip book and see every cool movie on opening night. I could be the average American and spend more hours with television than sleeping. Of course in order to have that time, I'd have to table other pursuits like working out or preparing my own meals.
The truth is that you are the master of every minute. I think we all benefit from thinking of time as a form of currency. Are you willing to spend 42 minutes of your life on that show? How about 8 hours with that video game?
Please don't misunderstand me. Recreation is important. I have a soft spot for popcorn fiction and I geek out over the occasional comic book movie as much as the next hot guy living around nerdy people like in The Big Bang Theory. But that's because I've chosen to allow those things to be important enough to me to spend my time on.
Or to put it another way, sometimes the video game is worth your eight hours because it relaxes you or it moves you because Cecil turns out to be a Paladin and Rosa loves him no matter what he did or does, AND WHY COULDN'T YOU UNDERSTAND FINAL FANTASY, MOM!?!). But I digress :)…
Perhaps this is a bit much to chew on for some. Maybe this is too intense or unforgiving. But I believe one thing that has made my experience with weight loss different not only from others experiences who have tried and failed but also my own previous experiences is that this time, more than any other, getting healthy became a priority.
And I have spent every minute since with that in the back of my mind. That doesn't mean I don't take time to enjoy myself, it just means that I make time to be the kind of man I want to be.